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  1. Arielh

    Arielh Living Forum Legend

    igotfrogs oh this is so bad he was young. I hope the pain gets less...
  2. igotfrogs

    igotfrogs Forum Overlooker

    As silly as it sounds ...... with the amount of damage the stroke had done the result was better for him in his case .... as he would have been left not being able to do anything not even read or talk .... so the pain is for us left behind to deal with his passing ..... but it was the best outcome we could have wished for in his case ..... the stroke killed one full halve and depth of one side of his brain ....he didn't know anyone anymore( so they said) .... couldn't talk, move by his own desire, couldn't even eat .. so yes PnP my heart is with you all .... because after i lived this with my brother i know not everyone recovers a stroke(always thought they could till this)
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  3. Arielh

    Arielh Living Forum Legend

    It doesn't sound silly, I can understand you. My family had been through a similar situation.

    Pnp I hope your dad is better:)
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  4. igotfrogs

    igotfrogs Forum Overlooker

    Yes PnP our wishes with your Dad ...... sending positive thoughts across the sea's
  5. puppiesnponies

    puppiesnponies Living Forum Legend

    I am so sorry frogs for your loss. You have my condolences and sympathy. My aunt had a stroke followed by leukemia and it has just been over a year since her passing and she remains very much missed.

    That must have been such a terrible time for you and your family. I am so sorry. Hugs to you.

    I am also sorry for your family experience Arielh.

    Thank you all for your notes. I apologize I did not update earlier. I guess I overlooked it in the midst of being sick and some other RL worries.

    Update: Daddy was released from the hospital and did not have to go to a rehabilitation facility (my aunt was in one for a while). He is to continue outpatient physical therapy to strengthen his right leg and foot. His stroke was light so he/we were very blessed it was not as severe as what you share happened with your families. He has a blockage in his carotid artery that the doctors feel can be treated with medication and he is to follow up with his cardiologist and neurologist. He was able to return home and has gone back to independent living. He lives alone and I worry about him but he is doing as well as can be expected.
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  6. igotfrogs

    igotfrogs Forum Overlooker

    Wonderful PnP I'm so very glad he recovered better than some do in the situation .... My mother is also aged and lives alone (she did live with my brother till he passed away) i also worry about her with her health and living alone .... I callled her every morning and night to check up on her we have a nurse set up to call in most mornings .... over here we have a thing called a medic alert they can wear around their neck and if they press a button it calls through to the paramedics i would like for her to be living in a care situation ..... BUT shes very against the idea and set in her ways .... lol ...
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  7. bygo_cris

    bygo_cris Count Count

    The result of my mom analyzes were shocking. She will have to take medication all her life. From what I understand, she started showing signs of recovery after treatment started. She must change her lifestyle. To keep on diet, to exercise everyday, to do memory exercises, if she get a cold she can't get treatment. No stress or strong emotions. If there is another disease can be dangerous for her.
    I don't know how much can be recoverable, or if at some point she decides to not take medication, then it may get worse? All we can do is to watch how things are going.
    I live in another country than my parents and between us are 7 hours time zone. I don't talk to them often, we are communicating more by sending messages that we can't be the same time online.

    I'm happy your father is ok now. That is a great news.

    igotfrogs and Arielh so sorry for your lost that is so sad and unfair. I almost lost my brother too when he was 18 and head a mild heart attack. So I can imagine how you felt.

    wolfeyesone so true. Thank you. I guess I will wait and see.
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  8. wolfeyesone

    wolfeyesone Forum Veteran

    That's great news PnP, I do hope his recovery advances well. I will keep your family in my prayers , sometimes that post event period can be a bit trying, Their mind is way ahead of the body in regards to healing, They want to be able to do things and do them now, causing them to become frustrated and a bit depressed. At least this has been my experience. My fathers has/is going through a similar medical event, He is doing well now, Thankfully. If there is anyway to be of help Please let me know..

    Arielh, I am sorry to hear you and your family experienced a similar sadness as well. My thoughts are with you.

    Frogs, So very sorry to hear about your brothers passing, so unfair as he was too young. I can sympathize, & understand your thought, as I have witnessed family members suffering and wished it had been more peaceful. I hold you in my thoughts as well.

    My sympathy goes out to you as well bygo_cris, Every loss is heartfelt. I do hope between the Doctors,Medicine and some lifestyle changes your mom's medical condition will be controlled and you will have many, many, many more years together.
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  9. igotfrogs

    igotfrogs Forum Overlooker

    It's the old thing guy's bad things happen to good people ..... chins up .... we live life for them that can't any longer

    While ever we speak their name .... they live on in this world and our hearts .... thats how i feel anyway
  10. puppiesnponies

    puppiesnponies Living Forum Legend

    We have medical alerts here too. My mom had one before and it did provide some peace of mind. Daddy takes all our suggestions, tells they are good ideas, and then ignores them. He has lived alone for 20 years and has his own routine. He never cooks and prefers to eat all meals out. He has never even turned on his stove! I offered to have him to lunch or dinner a couple times a week but he declined saying it would be too much for me. Nothing I said made any difference. I hate it when people don't want to spend time with me or want the help I can offer but use my own health as a reason to not accept the invitation. It is not a big deal to make an extra portion of whatever we are having to include him too. *sigh*
    That is good news that she started to show signs of recovery after treatment began. It sounds like even though she will need lifelong medication and needs to be careful about exposure to other illness that she can still improve her health with some lifestyle changes. I know it is hard when you live far away from family and you cannot always travel to be with them in these kinds of situations. I am glad you are able to stay in touch via online.
    I am glad to hear your own father is doing well. Thank you for the offer.
    Yes, I keep my loved ones near me with memories, photos and some treasured gifts. They may be gone but will never be forgotten.
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  11. wolfeyesone

    wolfeyesone Forum Veteran

    They can be set in their ways, and are afraid of losing their independence.
    After all those years of doing the providing part, it's hard to accept that things sometimes need to change.
    I can see where that would frustrating, Perhaps another dinner invitation ?
    I hope I haven't expressed to much, sorry if I have.
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  12. puppiesnponies

    puppiesnponies Living Forum Legend

    Yes, another invitation will be given. While he is at a healthy weight, he still needs to take care of himself. He also has diabetes and heart problems so he needs to eat better because the fast food that he has been eating is not good for him. I do understand that it is hard to ask for help as well as to receive help. I put it in terms that he would be helping me as well. I can only keep trying.....

    No worries about anything you have said. I appreciate the perspective others have who are also facing or have faced similar situations. It helps to get distance because sometimes when emotions are running high, feelings get hurt and angry, and it is good to take a step back, calm down, and solve the problem.
  13. igotfrogs

    igotfrogs Forum Overlooker

    PnP My mum is the same she has diabetes .... i did the rounds with her .... from setting in place meals on wheels for her .... to sorting another meal delivery company as she wont cook for her self .... not cooked herself in MANY years ..... i used to cook all the meals for my family from the age of 13 years old .... anyways i put things in place so she would have hot meals delivered every day .... only to have her cancel them .... she eats take out / frozen pies pasties and the like Ive tried to tell her for the past years shes slowly killing herself by eating what she eats .... she wont listen .... so i hate to say I've resigned myself to the fact with me living states away .... she will do what she will do and i have no control over the fact .... and i have to know i tried to get her to do better and she wasn't willing ..... and resign myself to the fact i tried and she has made the choice .... but its so very frustrating!
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  14. wolfeyesone

    wolfeyesone Forum Veteran

    I understand & agree with the thoughts you have expressed.
    Yes sometimes to keep trying seems in vain, but as you said that's all one can do.
    My Dad finally came to accept many things in his own accord. We can only do so much, the rest is up to them.
  15. puppiesnponies

    puppiesnponies Living Forum Legend

    frogs - yes, it can be frustrating. It sounds like you did a lot of things to support your Mom's health. I am sorry she was not receptive to the support services you lined up for her. Maybe she will, as wolfeyesone's dad has, come to accept certain things and make changes that will improve her health and life.

    wolf - I am glad your Dad was able to come to terms with his health situation. It does take time to get over the shock of a diagnosis and how it impacts your life.

    We always want good things for our loved ones even if they are not able to see it. I will keep trying and will attempt to do that trying with more love and patience than frustration and aggravation.

    Thank you all so much for you support during this time.:)
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  16. farmlily3

    farmlily3 Forum Freak

    8) Having just found this thread, I am shocked and stunned; my heart aches fiercely by the sad, sad things that have been happening to you all, whom I've come to consider as friends.:inlove: You've all shown such courage, and done what you could under such difficult circumstances. Each one is heart wrenching, and yet all of you have risen to the occasion as exceptionally caring human beings.:inlove::inlove:
    I wish I'd known any one, and all of you, when I lost my parents, a few years apart. I no longer grieve, though I miss them so much, as I've come to know the hope and future happiness that the Bible promises those who have died, and those who survive the end of this system of things. The 'Lord's prayer' tells of a Kingdom to come, and Revelation 21: 1 - 5 tells us what God will do for them and us when that Kingdom replaces the bad/sad system that is here now. Of course the Bible tells us so much more, and it is so uplifting - gives so much to look forward to for all of us, and the promise of a resurrection for all those we have lost. The knowledge and wisdom and hope found in it gives more comfort than can be found anywhere else - and I wish it all for all of you - because it is from God himself.:inlove:

    :inlove:Better than a warm blanket on a cold Arctic night!!:music::music::inlove:
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  17. bygo_cris

    bygo_cris Count Count

    I remember when my grandmother was sick with cancer. She was ready to give up and don't care anymore. She did not want to accept any help. We have always tried to help her and we never gave up. I even recourse to emotional blackmail:oops:, being her favorite. I told her how disappointed I am with her, and that I must obey her, to do what she says. I told her that if she loves us, why sees us as strangers, we are a family. We have to be a family at hard times too. I said that I would be happy to be able to give her a little of what she gave me.
    My grandmother has accepted help from family. Now she is healthy and not give signs of relapse. A few years have passed and she's good.
    I mean, I know it's hard and tiring, frustrating. For family must fight to the end.
    I hope that my message was not wrong, or make you feel bad. I just tried to encourage you. You have to get power and to not lose patience and hope. Fighting!:oops:
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  18. puppiesnponies

    puppiesnponies Living Forum Legend

    Thank you farmlily. I am sorry you lost both your parents so close to each other. I am blessed to still have mine and cannot imagine the future without them in it. I agree that God's plan is much better than any we can create for ourselves and He does give love, patience, kindness, hope, forgiveness, grace, mercy...that I rely on each day. Thank you for sharing your story too.:)

    I am happy to hear bygo that your grandmother is doing better and that you were able to help her accept help from those who love her. Your message is not wrong nor does it make me feel bad. Thank you for the encouragement. I really liked what you said about being a family at hard times too. Family is very important to me and I will continue to try to be supportive and try not to get my feelings hurt.

    Thank you all for such heartfelt and heartwarming posts. I was having a bad day when I updated Daddy's condition and I appreciate your messages very much.:)

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  19. -Mir85-

    -Mir85- Living Forum Legend

    Hi pnp :) The horse cake was for mackboy, since Frogs was hogging the froggie cake :p But I have a cake for you too :)

  20. puppiesnponies

    puppiesnponies Living Forum Legend

    Thank you so much Mir! It's too nice to cut into!
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