Leaving the forum

Unfortunately the time has come for me to leave the forum. A few things have culminated in this decision, initially my RL schedule not leaving me enough time to engage on the forum, but more recently the fact that it is an environment I'm no longer happy being in.

It's difficult to enjoy a setting where you don't feel respected or welcome, and the restrictions that are placed on us coupled with being reprimanded for trying to do the right thing makes me feel silenced and renders my opinion unwanted. That's not an environment I'm happy being involved in and honestly, it's not an environment I would have thought would be experienced in Farmerama.

I consider it a shame that I've been forced to make this decision (however I know it will be a joy to some, another contributor to my decision making process) because there are a great deal of people on this forum who do make it an exceptionally wonderful place to be - and I don't like having to sacrifice those relationships, but I don't feel I have any choice.

I feel constantly frustrated by the rules of the forum and the way they are enforced, and I don't feel that they reflect the way a forum should be; in my view a forum should be a place where all opinions, all posts, all thoughts can be shared - only that's not the way this forum works. Even if what you're doing is morally right, if you're in the minority, you get treated like the bad guy - and I've had too many experiences being reprimanded for having the respect no one else seems to possess. Only some opinions are welcome on this forum and treating everyone with respect apparently has no place here. That's not something I can stand for and I won't associate myself with a forum where double-standards are imposed every day and where a plea for basic human decency is considered inappropriate and rude.

I can only hope that my experience has been an isolated one because I feel that this forum could be a nice place to be if it wanted to, and that shouldn't be missed out on by other players; nor should feeling disrespected and unwelcome ever be part of the human experience.

Anyway, good luck with future events and I hope I can keep in touch via IGM with the handful of you who made me feel welcome - I thank you people from the bottom of my heart.

 

I'm sorry to hear you've come to this decision. I enjoy reading your posts a great deal, and I just wanted to let you know you would be missed here. For my part, if I've done anything to contribute to your feelings of dissatisfaction, either knowingly or unknowingly, I hope you will accept my sincerest apologies. Good luck with the game, I hope you won't be leaving the farm entirely.

 

This forum will be the poorer without you as I have always felt you are the 'Voice of Reason' who thinks before writing.
Go for a while if you must, but I will miss you, and come back one day...

Thanks for all your valuable input, Squiggle !


P.S. F.F.F.F. (fake Farmerama family forever!!)

 

wow, sorry to hear this Squiggle, I wish you well even if this decision is final, I hope it isn't. May I suggest that the forum as with the game itself, it is best not to take things too serious or literal. I sometimes feel I have reached the saturation point for negativity and unreasonable demands I see posted, at which point I go do something else most times rather than responding. I know it has been stated many times that things written in the forum can be misconstrued, misunderstood, or even twisted, the written word lacks so much because you don't have "tone of voice", facial expression or body language as cues to absorb. Sometimes I think we all need to step back,count to ten, breathe, then see if we can see different viewpoints before responding ~ something I know I should practice more myself. There are times I avoid the forum other than to check OAs and events, so what I wonder is maybe just a break from the parts of the forum you post in often, to see if there is an improvement in the overall feeling you are having? just a thought, you do what you feel is best though.

 

Oh, that's not you, you are not a quitter, give your self some time to think it over, stay and prove you are stronger than those who tries to upset you, and remember: rules were made to be broken (well, sometimes) I know may be I am a stranger to you, but I will tell you this, I have read every thing you have written since I become interested in the forum, do not leave that space empty.

 

I've been around longer than you Squiggle and seen you come and go more than once - and if I remember you used the same reason once before too. So, I hope, after a period of reflection you will realise that life and this forum are what you and we make it - rather than it being something we think we aren't responsible for how it develops or what we get from it. This forum is a dull place compared to a few years ago, and I think you did liven it up - you will be missed for all sorts of reasons.

 

I am always sad when a farmer expresses intent to leave. I am not sure what happened to contribute to the basis of your decision but you definitely should do what is comfortable and best for you. I do agree with joyce that sometimes things may be read the wrong way due to the printed word does not allow for inflection, tone, facial expressions and body language. As far as I know, all opinions are welcome on the forum. Disagreements may happen but that comes from people being people. There is a wide diversity here...farmers of different gender, age, countries, cultural, political, religious backgrounds contributing to different points of view. While you may have found some people do not always agree with your ideas that does not mean you are not welcome to express your ideas, suggestions, and feedback. As you can see from above posts, there are farmers who do appreciate your point of view. I would encourage you to surround yourself with people who provide you with support, encouragement, and friendship and try to ignore anything that has made you feel distressed. Hard to do I know....give yourself time to process whatever has happened, learn from it (if there is indeed a lesson to be learned), and give yourself time to heal....

 

squigglegiggle it is so sad that you will leave and even sadder that you want to.
This forum should be a place where any player is treated the same way. Personally I feel that this is happening. But maybe not for you.
I will really miss your posts. They were logical and so interesting to read. You have a great personality...We have talked once via IGM and I want to continue talk with you there.
Good luck with your RL

 

I participate in multiple forums. There is without a doubt more bullying, still, on this forum than any other forum I've read. Don't let the bullies get you down. Most importantly, don't let them change who you really are.

While I don't always agree with your posts, I understand them.

Good luck with your future studies etc.

See you again soon?

 

Squiggle, I'm sad to see you go...