non gifting new neighbours

illy, I too like to help out players from the SOS thread when an event is on. I tend to do a rotation in general (when it's non-event), start an event that way, then once players start asking for help during events I like to do what I can! I too like to think that my neighbours understand why they may not receive a gift from me for a couple of days or so and as the majority are mid-high players anyway I kinda guess they're not in dire straits themselves (although if they ask or are on the SOS I of course will do what I can! I have also found that by helping other players you can make new friends this way as it starts with an 'adding you...' igm then you get chatting and bingo!..you've got another farmer pal . Only thing I struggle with is remembering who I've asked and said what to... I love talking to lots of different people but my memory isn't great so I probably end up repeating myself a lot but hopefully everyone will understand lol

 

You can gift people that are not your neighbors?

Ok so I found the FAQ on this so I see that this can be done and how. So is the only difference between a neighbor and a buddy/friend the fact that you get a reward when your neighbors level up?

Other than the whole clear the green meadow portion of having neighbors I mean.

 

Hmmm,I think so Clash but best to check it out to be sure.I'm sure someone who's in the know will see this and let you know for definate!

 

reminds me of a co worker years ago, we carpooled, and one day going home before Halloween we were discussing giving treats out and he mentioned a neighbour that never handed out treats. so he tells me that this year when that neighbours kids come to his house for trick or treat he will turn them away. needless to say i didnt carpool with him anymore.

sorry to disagree with you mir but i believe the op statement was harsh. im sure there was a better way of making a point without posting a rant and handing out an ultimatum.

being a new player myself and having my head spin with all that there is to learn i dont think i even started gifting till my 3rd week. i hand out 5 gifts a day now and might receive 2-3 a day, no biggie. i think i like new players as neighbours because they level up often and the ep start to add up. with six neighbours over lv80, i believe only one of them has leveled up over the past 5 weeks.

 

I must be missing something cause as a new player the gifts I can send are nominal at best. I was assuming the 80+ level neighbors I got would not be that interested in receiving them. I've been gifting the other new players and my mentor is that wrong?

 

Sorry to disappoint, but SantaClaus isn't me. I know you don't like me, but don't use that as an excuse to a) assume that someone is me and b) treat them poorly as a result. That treatment is the reason I've left the forum (and the reason I'm heading off after this) and I really hope you don't push more people away by being so rude. I'm sending an apology to SantaClaus as we speak. I get that you don't like me but it's no excuse to be less than welcoming to others who may happen to be somewhat like me. You accuse me of making the EN forum a bad place but I'm not the only one who's nasty.

 

You can send gifts to whoever you want. They don't have to be your neighbors only. You can add more players to your friend list and send them gifts.

We should have in mind that players who haven't unlocked the extra gifts rune can only send 5 so it is so difficult for them to choose.
Even for the rest of us who have 7 gifts it is difficult to choose.

 

Thanks for all the input. I'm going to send messages to my new neighbours.

 

Obviously there are different approaches. Mine has evolved.
It's been nearly 4 years since I started playing. I don't remember for sure... I think I didn't quite know about the gifts at first. Seems like I learned when ppl were discussing them in the forum. Drops were a big issue. lol I did get to the point of asking ppl what their preferred gift was. Made a note on an index card for each neighbor.
I did have one neighbor that told me he didn't care about receiving gifts, so I don't send him any. I send them to the ppl who really want them. I used to send all the gifts every day and record who sent me gifts, and how often. Funny thing is... one time I had someone send me a note that they were dropping me, but they would still send me an occasional gift. LOL. I checked my notes and she had not sent me a gift in many many months. I had stopped sending her gifts about a month after her gifts to me stopped.
When I was preparing for my surgery last year, and subsequent chemo, I decided to stop keeping track of who sends me gifts, or when they sent. I wasn't sure I was going to keep playing. Now I just send whatever gift to whomever. Not much logic to my current method at all. I have always given priority to my neighbors. As they drop off I don't replace them. Lots of openings but with 3 farms is too confusing and overwhelming to keep track of... 45-50 neighbors. That's one of the reasons my neighbors rarely receive IGMs from me. The other reasons have to do with health, time/RL and BPs poorly designed IGM system, I hate it.

 

I too am a new player, and tell the truth I have had so much information going through my head, (and fun) that I can't even remember how I got the wonderful neighbors I have, I never post in forum for them, they just seemed to appear and make my new farm life all bliss. I find it hard to decide 5 gifts daily, so I will strive for the rune that gifts more...so big thank you Arielh, I had no idea of that!

 

Squiggle / Santa, I assume your post refers to me and can assure you that I neither like, nor dislike you .. How can I make that sort of opinion about a person whom I have never met? I have also not been rude to you or nasty either or even wanted to cause offence. I have simply pointed out that I feel your argumentative behaviour is unnecessary and clutters up threads. I do not see why Squiggle needs to apologise to SantaClaus just because I, and a number of others, have noticed the extreme similarity between Squiggle and Santa in their behaviour, way of writing, choice of words and emphasis on them? Anyone who reads a lot, which I do, will recognize the style of writing between various authors. If you look back over the posts written by both Squiggle and Santa you will see it yourself. That coupled with the date of Squiggles most recent leaving post and Santa’s join date leans strongly towards them being the one and same person. I came to this conclusion some time ago when Santa jumped into a neighbour apology thread in Game related Chit Chat over an issue which did not initially involve her as it was prior to her join date but one that she seemed remarkably well informed about to the point of even knowing what bits the mods had deleted. This issue originally had involved Squiggle AND I also apologised politely at that time if I was wrong.

I have seen too many constructive threads closed due to bickering and unnecessary behaviour and would not like to see this one closed for the same reasons so I am not prepared to debate this any further here, Squiggle/Santa are most welcome to discuss this further with me via igm if they wish to, or perhaps we could all get together in a chat room at the same time to exchange mutual apologies for accusations made?

 

LOL! Reading this thread, I remembered that at the beginning, there were not such thing as neighbours. When this was introduced, I was a little disappointed. Thought the game would be changing for the worse (or should that be worst, never sure!). I wanted the Park but no way did I want to have to invite complete strangers to help me clear it even though my Deco inventory was bursting at the seams with all those pretties doing nothing.

As it turns out, this has been one of the most successful "changes" that I can remember. The gifts were an added bonus!

 

@squigglegiggle

You keep saying that you've been treated poorly and made to feel unwelcome in this community. I have yet to see any evidence for anyone doing anything to make you feel that way. I have, however, seen you attack several players for simply expressing an opinion different from your own.

You keep turning minor disagreements into lengthy debates on whose opinion is [morally] superior. That goes beyond just expressing an opinion. What you're really doing is trying to intimidate others into thinking a certain way.

That's the only reason I called out your behavior as argumentative. My concern is that kind of behavior will discourage others from posting and sharing their opinion. It had nothing to do with whether or not I liked you as a person. I'm not sure how you even got that from what either kmellish or I said, to be honest.

We are just asking you to play nice and respect others' opinions. That's all.

As for squigglegiggle and SantaClaus being two different people... sorry, not buying that. I recall one person mentioning that they have seen you leave the forum only to return on more than one occasion. The fact that SantaClaus joined the forum shortly after squigglegiggle left is just too convenient.

The two not only have similar writing styles, but eerily similar opinions and attitudes as well. I find it hard to believe that two virtually identical individuals somehow found each other and became neighbors through random happenstance. Again, SantaClaus only joined the forum after squigglegiggle left. Something just isn't adding up.

 

It has been very long so I forget that at the beginning I needed neighbors to unlock the green meadows, at that time stepping into the forum and asking for neighbors on need new neighbor thread was an adventure that I was reluctant to have, it was a new strange thing to me, and the idea of the forum was not clear and did not grasp the concepts, my first few neighbors was not gifting and not communicating also, after six months I tried to communicate and did not get an answer, the gifts were not important to me that time, then neighbors left and new neighbors came, and when I started trying to finish events, I understood that neighbors can help and started gifting, and some of them start gifting back, now at my level I don't need gifts, it is a minor thing to me, I am able to finish events easily, getting all the drops my self by following strategies from the forum, and being able to produce all the products myself, so I am no longer posting for new neighbors, what I found is some players contact me by IGM and ask to be neighbors, and I never say no, all are welcome, I asked my self how they knew about me, and why they ask me to be neighbors and the answer was the forum, they saw me posting and wanted to be friends, it is not about gifts, though I am sending daily to my 20 neighbors, on rotation, and they do, most of them, not all of them are communicating regularly but the gifts are not stopping, once I received an IGM from a new player that said I am new. please add me so I can unlock the land then you can remove me, she was level 17, and I am glad I added her, she is at level 66 now and hard working, and I found that having neighbors add color and sound to the game, it is a joy that I found and even happier when we communicate, and when they ask for help and I can help, always we send congratulation for occasions, or on leveling up, and a lot of Suzy's flying posts and sometimes we gift artisan products, so that is the thing about playing online instead of playing alone, I can see there are many good people here and it is fun to be around, just one final thing to say here, I am not with deleting neighbors because they do not send gifts, give then more time, and if they stop playing they will be removed automatically, if they are new and low level, there will be time when they are going to start appreciate being neighbors, exchange gifts and communicate.

 

Greetings love ones

Since the conversations is heading well in the wrong direction, it is best to close it before it gets too out of hand .
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Best regards,
teddy.bear

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