The Infamous LastPost

I'm not sure I've heard any of those stories @CJAT However, my friends and I have all agreed that until our kids act as silly as we once were able to pull off that we wouldn't give them any ideas.

 

I have decided that I will type a message up explaining things for my Farmerama friends.
I do miss all of you guys and it sure was lots of fun being active in the forums getting to meet new people. I was always amazed how people where from all different countries. That just makes Farmerama so cool to me. I don't honestly want to quit playing this game because of the people I know on it. I might not chat to you guys much anymore but I do read the forums very briefly.

So you guys probably wondering what have I been doing. Back in February I met someone online from the Philippines. I'm from the United States. Our distance is 8700 miles. Please don't be saying negative stuff about the Philippines. I am fully aware of everything because I spent probably around 20 hours of reading and watching videos. After four months of knowing her, we both decided to enter a relationship. We tagged each other on Facebook for our friends and family to see. But I have already told my family ahead of time to see what they think. I didn't need to ask for permission, I'm over 18 years old and younger than 24. (Didn't reveal my age)
We text every single day for around five to ten hours. Phone calling nearly everyday and Skype weekly. Never skipped one day without messaging each other. So when that happens I don't know how I'll be, hehehe. Even when we have arguments, we still chat with each other but will sometimes take a one or three hour break. Now here's what I really like about her. She doesn't wear clothes that reveal too much skin, she is very religious, great personality, fun person to talk to, and great sense of humor.

I plan to visit her country in one or two years if things work out. I don't have doubts and try to only think positive. I have a good choice airports that are somewhat near me. Newark (EWR), John F. Kennedy, (JFK), and Philadelphia, (PHL). During the visit she wants to show me around and do local things together. I am hoping for that day to happen so I can have many pictures together with her. And of course I'll be posting the nature ones on Farmerama for everyone

If you have questions or want to give me some tips, please feel free to do that. BUT I would recommend sending it as a message from the Farmerama messaging thing in the city.

 

Congratulations @solotime , I hope you guys are very happy together. My Hubby spent 3 weeks in the Philippines a few years ago. It's a beautiful country. He made wonderful while there. Can't wait to hear how your trip goes.

 

Thank you very much!
Yeah we both are very happy to know each other. It's just funny how people start as strangers and build it up together. Back then when I met her, I expected her to just be like the bad ones I ran into. I was instantly shocked when I saw how much different she was. Being very religious is what I believe makes her a good person. She wants to have God in our relationship. Also, when I visit her, we will go to Church together. She told me I must wear jeans and not shorts, lol.

If you remember, what part of Philippines did your husband visit? I will land in Cebu and then Laguindingan Airport. She lives like 20 minutes from it.

 

No shorts. I like her!! -edit-

I can't remember the town he stayed in but he flew into Manila and then headed north from there. I believe Cebu in further south if my memory is correct. I'll be heading to my maps to see for sure in a little bit. Maybe I'll see the name of where he went and remember as well.

 

Hi solo

I am happy for you.
You already do, what I would advise. Stay positive. There are enough people who say negative. Get informed about the country and culture. Be honest.
All the rest will follow in time. A strong relationship can handle a long distance for quiet a while. Obstacles can be really frustrating and make you doubt. In the end it is worth to have managed the Challenges. It makes both of you and your relationship stronger.

 

Haha, that made me smile, I am the same way with certain countries. Cebu is like in the middle under Manila. We're both happy and everyone wants to be happy. It's such a nice feeling having someone who makes you smile all the time.

That is very true! I have noticed that even when we run into some misunderstand which leads to argument, we feel much better about ourselves. Remaining honest is very easy for me to do. I am always trying to be very honest with people.
She told me some things about the culture. They don't like "Public Display of Affections".

 

Good luck Solotime. My youngest son met a Philipino girl when he went backpacking in Australia and they have now been very happily married for 20 years. I now understand why she thought it was odd when Hubby & I cuddled in front of her although she had been living in Australia since she was a teenager. They are both Australian citizens now.

 

Oh my, that's very nice to hear a story like that. Also the country Australia is a very nice

 

solo - That's great news...about you & your new girlfriend! She sounds wonderful! I also am uncomfortable with PDA....hand holding is about all I can handle. LOL
By the way...went to the lake this past weekend...and caught a 13 inch rainbow trout!!!!

 

Unfair!
My biggest is 12 inches this year. I caught 14 trout though.

However, thank you very much. Yeah I agree holding hands is fine
I forgot to say one thing, I'm 6'2 for height and she's 5'4.

 

Congrats @solotime that's great news. My hubby is 6'3 and I'm 5'4 - it makes for interesting photos, but I'm still in charge (or so I like to think!) .

 

We have the same height discrepancy here 5'1 and hubby 6'

 

I can't wait to see what the height gap will be like
But hey, every girl wants a guy taller right?

@Pnp, I had no idea you were so short.

 

Good things come in small packages Fun size!

 

solo - Well you are way ahead of me! That trout was my 1st of the year!

pnp - Yeppers....good things DO come in small packages!!!(jewelry comes to mind)...and I'm just 5'3"

 

solotime Me and my husband we meet on internet. It was destiny so great because he does't have Facebook or any social network... And we was sending emails and messages, and Kakao chat for 2 months all day long. Until we can't stop thinking each other. And that started to affect our daily life. So I told him I want us to meet and he wanted too. So I told him in 1 week I will be there. He didn't believe me until he saw the ticket. The distance between our country's is over 6300 mil in 13 hours. In 9 months since we meet, we got married.

 

It's very nice to hear that @bygo_cris.
Hearing successful stories from other people do help.
I guess I'm lucking my girl has Facebook and Skype
I'll admit many times I do wish that I was in person with her already. Mainly the times when it's like a misunderstanding or whatever they're called. Because it would be so much easier cheering her up face to face and not with text.

I am a nice person but sometimes I want to hear things a few times. And that can make her think I have doubts or lack of trust.
Do you guys have any suggestions about that? Maybe I should try to deal with it when she says something once?

 

Well, misunderstandings are happening, especially if you can't see the other person often. Just don't give up. Tell her too. It is getting a tiny bit easier if you have finally met and feel more sure of each other. Just a tiny bit. I am sure skype helps a lot, because you CAN see each other. (kind of)
Didn't have that, when I needed it.
Working through this difficulties is worth the reward you get. Meaning living with each other in some future.

Sometimes one has to be the stronger person in the relationship and kind of carry it for the other. I hope you get, what I mean with it.

Before I got married there was a time, I was the sure and strong one. After, there was a time my husband was, when I was wondering how to be a couple if the paper work takes too long. We had children already and where still not in the same country.
We are happily married for 12 years.
Later, at some point, you are not thinking of the hard times anymore. If little things starts getting annoying, then you need to remind yourself, if it is really so. You have gotten through so much trouble and heartache. And then decide, no. It is nothing. You must be in a happy place if an open toothpaste tube starts to bother. Just as an example.

 

In all relationship appear misunderstanding but especially in relationships with foreigners. Due to differences in culture, the way we grow and where we grow, due to how we express ourselves in another language. Such disagreements were between me and my husband too. Quite often in the beginning. Now more rarely.
It is important to communicate more, and pay attention to each other, to listen, before drawing conclusions. If you are not sure of what you say to each other, ask again. Explain to each other what you are saying, think, do certain things. Because it is easy to misunderstand.
I remember in the beginning most common sentences that we tell them daily. What did you get from what I said? It was a joke. Do you understand? I'm not sure I understand correctly your intention? Why so? You misunderstood. Due to the way I grew up. And more ... ^_^